What My Uterus Can Teach You About Being a Tech Leader

Spoiler alert: my uterus doesn’t have much to say on the matter of technology and how it can improve people’s lives, though my brain has quite a bit to offer.

How do you do it all?

A sampling of the men’s products I received in my attendee gift bag at Fortune’s Brainstorm conference, which included men’s underwear, men’s shaving cream, and men’s toilet wipes. “Real gentlemen keep it clean.” Indeed.

These shenanigans played out all over again, like some recurring professional nightmare, at last week’s Salesforce Dreamforce conference.

I am so sick of this BS.

I wish there were a feminine equivalent to the term “emasculating,” because that’s how this makes me feel.

Maybe you think this problem is limited to the tech world, but you only need to follow the current presidential race to see these forces in full view.

Let’s start by making sure that we first and foremost value what’s in people’s brains and hearts and resume instead of focusing on damaging stereotypical gender roles.

PR/communications people: please do your job.

Conference organizers: please choose your interviewers carefully.

Interviewers and journalists: please focus on the work.

As I see it, you have two choices: you can either ask everyone these questions about their private lives and their role as a parent, or you should ask no one.

Women leaders: please don’t engage in these discussions when the focus is supposed to be on your professional accomplishments.

For the community of women in leadership roles and the many more who aspire to them, we need to say no.

Vice-President of Product Design & Responsible at Facebook. Previously at YouTube & Google. Ted speaker. Passionate about design, ethics, & tech. Find me @mags.

Vice-President of Product Design & Responsible at Facebook. Previously at YouTube & Google. Ted speaker. Passionate about design, ethics, & tech. Find me @mags.